Chad is just a placeholder for who she really loves, which is me. Look, I know there are no concrete ways to tell if someone's gay but she has a pixie cut, and short nails and I am in love with her. I’ve read about how awful casual sex with men can be.I’ve read about how bad sex isn’t the end of the world as we know it.

The worst that can happen is she doesn't answer. I wish women, myself included, were socialized to be more forthright, but until then, Tinder provides a powerful platform for us to be bold.In seconds, I know if a woman is interested and it makes the next step of messaging, "Want to meet for a drink?"This is kind of hard to talk about right now because my feelings for my straight best friend are very powerful in the way that girl best friendships typically are.We have an incredibly close friendship, make jokes about being a married couple all the time, but she has no idea that sometimes I think about her in a deeper way.I once read the clause “especially for heterosexual women” in a piece addressing the horrors of online dating — harassment and all — and wondered why the author, and authors of similar pieces at general interest publications, rarely consider queer women when they write pieces about harassment of women both online and off.As a bisexual woman, I know I can find great coverage of issues that affect me at sites for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer-identified women, such as After Ellen and Autostraddle.